Let’s face it, most of us like the drama. We like to discuss our problems, to talk about our hardships, and to make it sound like we are always fighting some battle of some kind. We love it because it gives us the spotlight, it gives us attention, and it makes people stop and ask about us. But, really are we that desperate for recognition that we make our problems take center stage?
I know drama is fun, because I used to be that dramatic person. In fact, a problem at work was enough to bring me to tears, depress me for days, and even make me lose the will to socialize. Even if I did socialize, I wasn’t a pleasant person to be around because my outings would involve me complaining about whatever problem I was having.Thus, I am sure I bored many people in the process.
However, it wasn’t until lately that I learned that there is comfort in putting things into perspective. I can’t take credit for this discovery, because I heard about this concept in a motivational video by Robin Sharma on YouTube.
The power of perspective enables us to really size up our problems within the larger scheme of things.
Regarding that problem at work, at home, or with a friend, we should often ask ourselves how big is it really? Is anyone injured from it? Did anyone die from it? And, really what is the worst thing that could possibly happen from it? Is it as bad as bankruptcy, a disease, a war, or a natural disaster wrecking people’s homes? Probably not, so complaining about it is not worth the energy.
In reality, no matter how big a problem is, it could still be worse, and this is how we put things in perspective. From the time I made this realization, I stopped complaining. After all, complaining doesn’t make problems go away. It just makes us so toxic that people get away from us.
In fact, I started to use my energy to help me get out of a problem and to see how the experience can make me better. Right now, my life right now is far from problem free, but I won’t bore you with the details of my issues because they are my issues alone.
You might be wondering what human support adds to our hardships and you might say that the power of sharing is amazing, and if you are thinking these things you are absolutely right There is merit to sharing experiences and discussing hardships. But, there is a difference between talking about a problem and seeking advice as opposed to dumping negative energy on others through blame, playing the role of the victim, and expecting people to hear a monologue of problems without solutions.
One of the things I did this year is delete such negativity from my life. Think about it, most problems are amplified when they are not put in perspective. Therefore, no one needs to listen to another human being’s amplified problems.
At the end of the day our problems are our own and when they are put into perspective they are small compared to the vast world we live in. Big problems like wars, natural disasters, diseases, and death force us to stop and pay attention, but other than that we inflict drama on our own lives for no real reason.
Harsh? Maybe so, but to me this is the road to a more peaceful existence.